Letting Go.
This has been my theme recently, and teachings of David Hawkins in his book “Letting Go – The Pathway of Surrender” has helped me a lot to understand, as well as video interpretations on this concept of “Letting Go” by Aaron Doughty, Sunny Sharma and Renee Garcia. (Thank you guys!)
Conceptually, it is easy to understand. But I feel this is emotionally, the most challenging to actually do.
Indeed, it’s not easy.
It took Buddha a lifetime to come to this realization, which eventually led to the concept of impermanence, with things coming and going.
As Buddha once said, “We suffer because we have attachment.”
Perhaps that attachment is to a specific outcome such as career or job (school or university to study), relationship with a person, city or country to live, living situation such as home or apartment, health condition, wealth and financial situation, or family situation (wanting to have a baby, wanting a child to behave in one way, etc).
And when it does not come true, just like you imagined, planned or scripted in your mind, you suffer, become unhappy or feel pain.
So why are we attached to a specific outcome and how come it is hard to just “let it go?”
It’s because of this false illusion, distorted reality we have about this certain outcome.
Somehow, we are in a way, have a false belief that this outcome will either bring us happiness, or is the ONLY way out, or is the ONLY solution….
Personally, for a few years, I was “attached” to this specific outcome.
I had taken calculated risks, took bold actions and moves, in order to achieve this.
But with certain life situations, challenges and teachings, after a few more years, I no longer wanted this.
I actually even hoped that it will not happen, as I started to see that I was putting such excess potential and importance to it (I will speak about this concept from “Reality Transfuring” by Vadim Zeland, in another story), and that I had mentally created this false image of it, all in my mind.
It was like I “woke up” to see the neutral and real reality.
But life is strange.
Once I no longer wanted it anymore, or rather, did not want it anymore – it came to me.
When I was detached, or rather, unwanting it – it came to me.
Now, the suffering comes, because of another attachment to something else.
And sadly, the suffering comes, of “being attached” now to the “unwantingness”
Perhaps an easy example for many people is: Let’s say you had a job that you really wanted, you got it, but after 3 days you realized you didn’t want it LOL
Or you had a crush on someone and chased, chased, chased, and when that person liked you back, you suddenly lost complete interest and watned to run away LOL
People might say then, “oh, then it’s easy to simply have a desire, then not want it.”
Well, it is easier said then done, but surely there is a way…
How???
Remembering to “awaken,” and notice that it is a temporary situation, thought or emotion. This too shall pass. Remember, all those things in the past that happened that seemed like it was the end of the world? Well it wasn’t, as you are reading this, you are still alive.
Being aware of the law of “impermanence” that things come and go, not just external circumstances, but also desires, come and go.
Being an observer, of the mind and thoughts, including desires and emotions, to see what is the story, meaning or importance I am giving it to, and why?
Step back, as watching a movie (of you and your life, well, life situations) and to see what’s really so important of this?
Practice Letting Go.
Letting go of illusions, distorted reality and false beliefs that may one day prove wrong anyway LOL, but instead, trusting myself and the Universe that if it’s meant to happen, it will happen, and if not, it was really for the best as something even better came along (and it’s hard to imagine now, but can be understood in a few years).
Practice not putting pressure to the Universe for one path, but allowing alternative paths to flow in – to naturally achieve, not a specific outcome – but a final overall goal, life purpose or feeling of inner peace.
